Alexandra Micu / Vogue Paris November 2018
Be patient with yourself my darling, you are still healing
Years ago I cared. Now I don’t. I know I am lost but I don’t want to be found.
Sometimes self love means allowing yourself the time to cry; to grieve; to hurt.
Be patient with yourself,, the hurting won’t last forever.
Be careful with what you pour your heart into, for its love is a very valuable gift that must be cherished.
Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
When someone:
- consistently criticizes or belittles you
- looks down on you for making mistakes and just being human
- guilt trips you for your wants, needs, or boundaries
- frequently blames you without ever looking at themselves
- pressures or coerces you to do something even when you expressed that you don’t feel comfortable
- gaslights you so you doubt yourself and they can feel “right”
- refuses to take responsibility for their actions
- refuses to listen to you or value your point of view on the matter
- doesn’t respect your boundaries
… you have a right to minimize their involvement, or cut them out of your life. These are red flags to a toxic relationship, and you do not feel safe with the person for a reason. You do not have to stay in the relationship, regardless of what they say. You have every right to consider what is best for you and your mental health. Never forget.
Be wary of red flags from the beginning, because getting out later takes more energy than getting in now.
Sometimes you have to hit those rough periods and bad patches to realise there’s healing that needs to be done.
